that's how i believe it is supposed to work. you should be able to turn the parking lights (and headlights) ON without the key in the ignition. in the case of the light timer relay, you must cycle the headlight switch OFF first.I just tested this on my 97 LX450.
Door closed, ignition on. Switch headlights on.
Switch ignition off-lights stay on until door opens.
Once in this state, you must switch headlights off, and THEN the stalk switch controls headlights normally, regardless of door open/closed.
my truck continues to misbehave today. as soon as i turn the truck/ignition off, the headlights and dash lights turn off. no way to turn the parking/head lights back on without cycling the ignition back on. i CAN flash the high beams, which is not part of the light auto turn off circuit, so that makes sense.
i don't suspect the headlight switch, as it works 100% WITH the ignition on. according to the EWD, the path to ground through the headlight switch (pin 11) is the same regardless of ignition on or off.
i do suspect that light retainer relay. i can't prove it, but it must have an internal failure, either not holding the relay open at ignition off or re-latching at random times. the ground path(s) are through pins 2 and 3, and therefore pin 11 of the light control switch.
or somehow the security system (TVSS in my '95) is messing w/ things. but i can't determine if it ties into the light circuit since there are no published schematics.
i'm going to try and source a used light retainer relay as the new ones are a bit much. in meantime when i get a moment (which is rare as work and kids consume every waking moment), i'll disconnect the relay and jump pins 7->3 and 8->2. that should allow me to cycle the lights on/off with the ignition off.
thanks for staying w/ me!