Trying to engage the e-lockers with the vehicle on the stands might be hard to do... typically you would need to spin the internals of the diff a bit to get the locking mechanism to engage, normally this occurs when you move the vehicle on a dirt road etc... the purpose of locking the diffs when rebuilding axle, is so that the side gears are held stationary which helps specifically with mating/meshing of the side gear to axle splines...
if you have one axle installed you can accomplish the same thing by having the vehicle in park and getting an assistant to hold the installed axle stationary, and as mentioned above try pivoting up and down and simultaneously rotating left and right until the splines mesh...
Are the axles new? if memory serves me correctly I believe that splines are roll formed so look for burrs on the leading edge of the splines... I believe that I had to persuade my new longside axle to go in with light tapping with a rubber mallet...
If the axles are the same ones that you had in there, try rotating the axles 45, 90 or 180 degrees... depending on how they have worn they might have a preferred orientation where they might engage easier...
Lastly try not let weight of the axle rest on the fragile axle seal, or you will be doing this again soon...
Edit: this goes without saying but if for some reason you've mishandled the axle, then look for deformed splines etc..