Unfortunately I don't have any true solution yet. Quick question - do you have an overhead DVD player (second row) and if so, does it work i.e. does the dvd player work (in 3rd row passenger side)? Either way, try turning your second row overhead lights to off position and see if that stops your battery from draining. Also - if you are concerned, consider a battery protector. I personally chose the PriorityStart and I no longer worry about getting stranded - it's relatively inexpensive peace of mind right now since I don't have time to deal with the issue.
(If I knew of an expert that I was confident could diagnose and resolve I'd have them look at it, but the dealership along with multiple other shops couldn't figure it out so I put it on hold for now.)
More info:
1) As I think I mentioned in previous posts, I installed the PriorityStart (
http://www.prioritystart.com/12vpromax.php) along with a knife blade disconnect from wirthco so I no longer worry about getting stranded. With PriorityStart, "if battery voltage drains below 11.7 volts when engine is off, it automatically disconnects the load." There are differences b/w PriorityStart and other products like BatteryBrain that made me more comfortable with PriorityStart. The only quirk I've had with PS is that every once and a while it seems to get stuck in limbo but a quick disconnect and reconnect with the Wirthco and it starts right up. For a while I had the weekly routine of the PS disconnecting after the week sitting so the remote fob wouldn't unlock (since batt was disconnected) - no biggie, I just manually open the door, key in ignition, foot on brake pedal for a few seconds and then the PS reengages and connects battery and all's good.
2) I can say that a few months ago I decided to try leaving the second row overhead lights in the OFF position (overhead lights combined with overhead DVD player). Since then I have not had a single battery drain issue.
I haven't traced anything down specifically and I have a suspicion about the DVD player - the rear dvd player (that connects to overhead dvd) wasn't ejecting discs but would spin up so I suspect it's screwed up somehow and theoretically could be related to my problem but that's speculation.
Maybe one of these days I'll find someone I trust or have time to look deeper myself ... At this point I'd rather find someone I trust (by trust I mean that I trust they are capable of resolving the problem without draining my wallet).