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idiot-proof tips on wiring this?
I have a AUX dash switch that activates an electric fuel switch bolted to the frame below. 2 wires go towards the switch. One is power from the switch, and the other is the sender wire from the passenger main tank, also travels towards the fuel switch and then continues up to the fuel gauge. Obviously, what I'd like is for the dash switch to BOTH, activate the fuel switch to open up the aux fuel line, AND switch from the MAIN sender to the AUX sender."
Ok you will need a DPDT (double pole double throw) switch and if you want to get sneaky get one that is center off (I'll explain later). Preferably this switch will have the current capacity to either run the pump directly or (better option) switch a relay to run the pump.
The switch has 2 poles which are electrically isolated from each other. One pole will switch between Main and Aux Fuel tank senders and the other pole will switch between the Main and Aux senders. I'll try to show the position of the wiring on the switch below.
..............Normally closed.... Common..... Normally Open
..................................To Fuel Gauge
Pole 1... Main Tank sender ............... Aux Tank sender
Pole 2 .. Main Tank Pump.................. Aux Tank Pump
.................................12v+ Ign Feed
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As for the pump wiring you could make the switch turn relays on to drive the pumps. That would be my preferred way of doing it. Don't forget to add a fuse in the power circuit before the switch.
If you use a switch with the center off it will give you an extra stumbling block for car thieves if you remember to switch it to the "Off" position when you park the vehicle