I just replaced the stock steering stabilizer on my FJ60 and had a similar problem. Pounding did not work. Don't use a pickle fork as it will cause other problems. Use a small or medium tie rod puller. It is U shaped with the top of the U returned in. Worked Like a charm. You can rent the puller from NAPA or do what I did and by a set of pullers with the one I needed in it.