An aux fan may be your best/easiest option here and an asset in tough, rock crawling situations where there's lots of hot-engine idling and you want more control of air flow.
That said, the stock cooling system should be keeping things cool for you in the scenarios you are reporting based on my understanding of them, my experience with my own 80 and understanding of what other folks see as well.
A few questions:
When you changed your fan clutch oil did you test/check the port opening temps and adjust/set those? I'm not sure how this may impact your idle specific cooling issue but there are multiple dynamic systems playing together here so it might.
How clean are your condenser and radiator? Have you cleared the fins for airflow and also washed them with a coil cleaner of some sort (or are they newish)? to make sure you are getting good airflow and heat exchange?
Have you tested wetting the condensor/radiator (w water hose) or pushing more air (leaf blower/external fan?) while idling hot to see how the engine temps react, to get a sense of where the limitation(s) is/are? This may not tell you much, but could also yield easy to get and interesting feedback or point to insufficient coolant flow (if that happens to be an issue, which seems unlikely given how it cools when you are moving).
If your cooling system is truly up to snuff maybe there's a tuning issue with the engine? That seems pretty unlikely without associated error codes or other issues but I assume it's possible. In any case, something doesn't seem to add up as I've pushed my 80s engine in a variety of situations, out west at elevation, at sea level, towing, etc. and it stays cooler than you are reporting. Of course, unless we were running side by side and checking with the same temp gauges, etc. there are a lot of conditions that could vary and be leading to the understood/reported temp differences.
Good luck,