Pin checks out as grounded.
Well...on to next thing. Maybe your difficulty getting to the actuator is why the FSM doesn't suggest testing that connection. If you don't want to try dealer first.
First thing i would do is reconnect the actuator and reset the DTC and see if all the messing around you've done has resolved anything. It does seem convenient that you recently did a flush. Although, you said you aren't 100% sure this wasn't like this before that.
The next step is getting to the suspension ECU. It's behind the rear quarter panel on the drivers side i believe. FSM says to disconnect the connector form the ECU and from the actuator and put your tester leads on to either end. You will probably need some sort of extension or a helper.
To do test (disconnect both the ECU and the actuator plugs):
Step 1
From the ECU end, check the 4 pins in the harness going towards the actuator to make sure none of the pins are grounded (FSM calls this resistance > 10kOhm).
Step 2
From the ECU end, check the 4 pins for continuity end to end by putting one test lead on the ECU side and one on the actuator side (FSM calls this resistance < 1Ohm).
Step 3 (reconnect the actuator plug)
From the ECU end, test each of the 4 leads to ground. Should see 12 to 13.6ohm.
Steps 1 and 2
Standard Resistance:
for RH (C1733)
Tester Connection Condition Specified Condition
K31-4 (RBR-) - N5-3 (RBR-) Always Below 1 Ω
K31-4 (RBR-) - Body ground Always 10 kΩ or higher
K31-5 (RAR+) - N5-1 (RAR+) Always Below 1 Ω
K31-5 (RAR+) - Body ground Always 10 kΩ or higher
K31-13 (RBR+) - N5-5 (RBR+) Always Below 1 Ω
K31-13 (RBR+) - Body ground Always 10 kΩ or higher
K31-14 (RAR-) - N5-4 (RAR-) Always Below 1 Ω
K31-14 (RAR-) - Body ground Always 10 kΩ or higher
N5-2 (E RR) - Body ground Always Below 1 Ω <----------You already did this one
Step 3
Standard Resistance:
for RH (C1733)
Tester Connection Condition Specified Condition
K31-4 (RBR-) - Body ground Always 12.0 to 13.6 Ω
K31-5 (RAR+) - Body ground Always 12.0 to 13.6 Ω
K31-13 (RBR+) - Body ground Always 12.0 to 13.6 Ω
K31-14 (RAR-) - Body ground Always 12.0 to 13.6 Ω