the 3" Slinky kit seems to run a bit tall from what many others have reported. They are designed to be the advertised lift height when loaded. Nothing you hate more than to get a lift and have it sag and be lower than you thought you were getting. FWIW, I'm almost 4 years in on my Slinky setup and it hasn't sagged a bit, even as I've added some weight.
I didn't trim a millimeter of anything with the Slinky kit to run 35's. Under totally stuffed compression I'd get a very slight rubbing in certain situations but not enough to damage tires, or any sheetmetal or flares. I jumped up to 37's with my 3" slinky kit. This did require minimal trimming but most of the trimming was needed because I moved my front axle forward. If you're dead set on 4" its NBD to add a small trim packer. I chose to add a 1" body lift recently but that was only because I wanted to reduce the amount of bumpstop I was using to get more compression. Sounds like you're set on the Slee/King setup. Nothing wrong with that and I'm not trying to convince you to change direction, just trying to correct some information that's in this thread for others that are reading.
In terms of ride quality, I'll take the dual rate Slinky springs over the linear Slee springs any day. But everyone's preferences are different and the Slee springs are nice springs.
3" Slinky on 35's at nearly full flex and no rubbing.
IMG_0630 by Adam Tolman, on Flickr
3" Slinky on 37's (before the 1" bodylift) still a little more travel available in front but the rear was at full stuff. No rubbing.
IMG_3161 by Adam Tolman, on Flickr
Hey Adam, Thanks for taking the time to fill in the gaps! Appreciate the honest review and contribution.