I know one of the scientists on the team that invented Mobile1 synthetic motor oil (he's now 97 years old!). He told me they tested it up to 115K miles under extreme conditions without any breakdown or adverse effects.
Basically he said you don't really need to change the oil if you're using Mobile1 or its equivalent, but that the filter does need to be changed so you may as well do the oil and filter every 15-20K miles or so. Also, you don't want to get complacent about checking the oil to avoid catching other problems.
That's what I've heard as well. Modern full synthetic oils, by and large, are more capable than the filtration media. The oil's good way beyond the filter. I used to run a 10k change interval with 5k filter changes. I just started doing oil analysis in the last few years that more or less backs up that approach. One exception noted below.
I've lowered my mileage per change simply to get crap out of the oil that the filter can't remove. There seems to be a trend on my 99 closely linked to mileage and accumulated "stuff".
I have similar needs as the OP. I idle a lot and there's no way around it. Also go offroading which is low RPM = lower oil pressure. Plus towing trailers over mountain passes = high load, high heat.
I had a Blackstone oil report done that confirmed that my oil wasn't really cutting it. See below.
Was just getting whatever Stevinson Lexus put in because the oil change price there was very reasonable, but recently their prices have gone way up so I decided to try the new gas truck HD oil by Rotella. I have used their T6 diesel oil in some of my other vehicles so I am excited to try this new 5W-30 oil specifically designed for trucks doing truck stuff.
Rotella Gas Truck Synthetic 5w-30: Amazon.com: Shell Rotella Gas Truck Full Synthetic 5W-30 Motor Oil for Pickups and SUVs (5-Quart, Single-Pack): Automotive
Toyota Oil Filter: Amazon.com: OES Genuine Oil Filter for select Lexus/Toyota models: Automotive
Previous oil report:
Nice to see someone else doing blackstone reports. I wonder what yours will be the next time around. My summary from the 99 I sold is below. Note the difference in lead. I'd love to see numbers for lead on a motor that's near bearing failure. Seeing your lead at 0 and mine at 24-44 is pretty crazy. My Supra had 14 on its last check as well. Now I'm dying to see the results from my 06. Should have first test results in a month or two. The Castrol Edge I use always has a marketing blurb about titanium content. Looks like it does have a lot of titanium (no idea if it's actually helpful or not).