I was worried that you'd get this close to justice, but ultimately not get it. I wonder if it would be better to just know nothing than to be in this situation.
But here's some unsolicited advice from a total stranger: don't let this degenerate...
Truly awful story, I hope you get it back.
I used one of these on my truck: http://4wheelonline.com/Grant_Steering_Wheel_Security_Systems.43.2148
Its a pain to drag the steering wheel around with you if you are running around town, but great...